Today was filled with mundane activities.
I renewed the insurance on three of my bikes, spent a good while cleaning the condenser from the tumble drier, popped up to the surgery for my annual diabetic review,* and managed to purchase TP's Christmas present at a healthy discount.
So, what is today's Journal entry all about? I promise that I will try to be concise.
There is a couple who were good friends, but over time we have become less enamoured with one of them. The reason for this is that we learnt, from her partner**, that she had accrued significant debts. Eventually a row between them brought matters to the surface, and measures were taken to get her finances back in order.
We believe that this is not the first time she has run up debts, and, previously, she has relied on her grandfather to bail her out. We also understand that she is not one for paying back these loans.
The problem is that, once you know something like this about a person, you tend to review their actions and behaviour in the light of this newfound knowledge. As a result we have been quite shocked that she continues to spend on unnecessary items, and really doesn't bother to live within her means. Her view seems to be that there is always someone around to bail her out ... her husband, or a relative.
I am afraid, that the more we see, the less we like. Previously we had glossed over the less attractive personality traits. She can be monosyllabic to the point of rudeness, and is frequently arrogant, dismissive and argumentative. However her husband is great fun. He is also very good with his money.
It is definitely a case of putting up with one partner, because we really like the other.
So, that is the background, now on to the "favour." A few days ago 30% reached out to the couple to ask them if they would like to join us for a meal. A reply came back advising that they would love to, but "taking account of TB's history of biting, perhaps we would like to go out, or go to their house."
Now they have only met TB on two occasions, and both were shortly after we rescued him. I will freely admit that he was a bit barky, but he has never nipped or bitten either of them. Over the past few months he has slowly transformed in to a loving dog. He can be excitable when visitors arrive, as can the others, but he soon calms and settles. Young children have visited, and there has been no problems.***
So, despite him settling in and exhibiting positive behaviour, this couple have decided that he has a "history of biting," and that they would prefer not to visit.
I've already mention that the friendship is not as close as it was, and this seems to be the perfect excuse to take a step, or two, back from this relationship. 30% replied that "it's probably best if we leave it then," and we have left it at that.
I have a couple of outings planned with the husband, and it'll be interesting to see whether this matter is raised.
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* This was best described as perfunctory, as they have been for the past couple of years. Previously these reviews were undertaken by nursing staff that had an understanding of my condition, my personal history and were actually interested in how I was managing my diabetes. Nowadays it seems to be a tick-box exercise carried out with disinterest. All of my results are available on-line and I gained nothing from my consultation. It is worth noting that a key part of the review is to check out one's injection sites. I haven't had mine checked for over two years! It is a good job I know to, and do, rotate my sites.
** He does have a tendency to overshare ... "I'm not really interested in your post-vasectomy sperm count"
*** We always supervise the dogs and children closely.
Robyn!
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